We are constantly overdoing...

With life getting so complicated, there never seems to be enough time for the simple pleasures of life... doing what you love doing!

But what we temporally forget is, "what you put in, is what you get back!" We all know this, and we sometimes forget as our time slips away.

In this present day we have to work hard, be competitive to be able to survive. Many of us hope to find ways to make life a bit easier... just a little simpler maybe! I'm sure most of you will agree when I say, it is not always what you know but rather what you do that makes the difference.

Meaning,...

'Action speaks loader than words'

Just because I'm speaking to you doesn't mean that I know more than you! On the contrary, all of you have probably learned all the basics about how to give more to one-self rather than not and also know the consequences if you don't.

The problem however, is that you are in a habit of pleasing others first. It's like second nature, we are only happy when others are happy or taken care of.

When the job is finished and done well! When there is nothing more expected of us!

Only then do we have time for ourselves and in most cases, it is just before bedtime! Easier to just flop down on the bed and sleep because you are over-exhausted!

Am I right?

But there is nothing more fulfilling and rewarding for parent or caregiver to know that the family is taken care of...,there is no doubt in my mind that you would give everything, even your last bit to have that feeling of accomplishment,...and when the new day starts, you do it all over again!

Hardly ever complaining!

What could be better than if we could show you how to give more "to" yourself to be able to give more "of" yourself without over doing it?

Steven Covey, a well known author of "The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People" he refers as taking time for yourself as "sharpening the saw" He states, "It's preserving and enhancing the greatest asset you have - yourself."

I know, our days gets busier and time seem to rapidly slip away.

In most families, both parents are breadwinners. They work long hours and no longer have much time to relax, instead both need to contribute and share the household chores, and single parents have it even worse.

We constantly overdo it and never give back to ourselves, which soon becomes a long-term cycle of:

• Always doing and never stopping
• Our body and mind begins to feel stressed
• We might even have a mental breakdown or
• Suffer from heart issues or more
• We become overtired
• Get grumpy or irritable
• Become sleep deprived
• This all leads to poor diet
• And we have less time for physical activity

Because we never take time to relax and enjoy life anymore, we constantly on the run and feeling grumpy. Anxiety or depression kick in because we feel,

• If we don't keep going and doing we might disappoint our partner, family or boss
• Or get replaced
• We fear the end of the month
• Or you might not look so good any more
• We might not get the "A" we wanted, and so much more...

So keep going, keep doing and in the end we become

• Over-exhausted
• Overworked
• Overstressed

The three (3) O's!


An alarming fact however: Is that most of us are heading for some sort of disaster, physically or mentally due to the three O's and there is nothing we can do...

Or is there?

Of course there is, everything we do in life has to have a balance!

It has to be done in moderation for it to work successfully.

Being exhausted, overworked and stressed is not going away any time soon. There is also no instant solution to getting rid of all the symptoms.

But learning how to pace ourselves, delegating some responsibilities and being more playful is a good place to start

This is ultimately what we all need. But there are keys to doing it right, to getting full use of it. But the main key to being more playful is not to be stressed over it.

It is suppose to be:

• Enjoyable
• Relaxing
• Loveable
• Peaceful
• Healthy
• Fulfilling

There is nothing wrong with giving to one's self. When this happens it makes living life and dealing with everyday stress so much easier.

Do you want to look after you greatest asset?

Then why not take stock of:

• Where are you now?
• Where do you need to go from here?
• How are you going to get there?

As parents or caregivers we try to be good examples to the ones we love and cherish... To our children, partners, "Our Families!"

So we want to be the ones to make the necessary change when the need be!

Why not take stock right now, and we'll see you on the other side!


To Your Continued Change!